This is what really got me analyzing our relationship. I dont know how to walk away from him. I have a 13 year old daughter he is not close to. Well, I knew about the Sleep Apnea issue, which was okay… especially since he is actively working with a sleep doctor to help manage this issue — so that was all good since he was trying to get help. No relationship is perfect, it takes work! The devil is trying to destroy us…let God take care of us sister! I confronted him for it and he shows remorse but am sure this is only because he got caught.
According to what you wrote then, you have one more year before your youngest is 18. You have to hash things out. I believe that is because his past relationships have beat him down with accusations and arguments that he avoids talking about issues. But before you leave this dodgy man, tell him that you don't want to be associated with him anymore, because you're not into homewreckers. Lately we have been arguing more often than not. He was kind and giving, understanding and loving. It has helped me to gain much clarity and strength.
A good marriage makes good kids. I even fetch his beers. However, there is going to be tricky, especially as sharing of my personal experiences will sometimes include sharing about other people in my life. To complete the cleansing process, all the dirt has to be cleansed. He is hispanic and lives with his family, so i moved in with not just him but his family as well. I love her alot and she does too. In the past she was hurt when her father and I split up so I do keep them somewhat distant.
He also says that he doesn't think that he can stand the pressure a relationship would put on him. Everytime i am with a friend he thinks i am with another man, so i try to not go out or i dont tell him i am out. You are supposed to keep the relationship happy by consistently sacrificing yourself for your partner and their wants and needs. I told him I was going to have a mental break, he shrugged his shoulders and walked out to work. But my insecurities and lying to her is tearing us apart.
I'm sorry you feel that way, but I understand. Sometimes the situation does dictate and people can choose how they want to handle their relationships. But maybe I should just go seek psychological help. Deception Although our lovely media have made you believe lying is normal for men and women, it's not normal for a healthy relationship. About a year after the first break up I felt like I just couldn't do it anymore. Love them for who they are.
Even if you were to able to forgive, your self-esteem would never recover, and you'd still always be angry at him or her underneath. I love this man with all my heart but i feel i cant trust him. Power struggles can result in partners just walking away, ranting in , creating desperate pleas, or using as a bludgeoning stick. If you can't be honest with yourself; there is no way you can be honest with anyone else. What is this man hoping to go in? I also feel like we promote each other's bad habits.
But age was never an issue. Gunther, I would first like to thank you for your time. It was a long 19 years, but we had 4 children together. They are willing to be known in more vulnerable ways and to listen more deeply to each other. It could be an age thing, but never be so sure that it is, because for one bad apple, there are a thousand more men who just might come along, that will treat you, with the true respect that you deserve.
A man will be that much happier for you to receive him when he returns, knowing that you trust both him and the strength of your bond enough to let him have his space. He says he can't tell the future and has never been through this before so he doesn't know what could or will happen. We were both coming out of long term relationships when we met and we decided to just be casual. My second suggestion is to get in-person support from a counselor, support group, or trusted friend. However, he also says that he's not sure whether he wants a relationship. Even if you are with other people, if the relationships act out in the same pattern as the past, it reflects you have not moved on.
I know exactly how you feel. Unfortunately this relationship distanced me from my family and any friends. There is some truth to that. Are you sad or depressed? Having an appreciation for how remarkable the people in your life are leads to good places — productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. What are our criteria for friendships? Stay in touch, tell me how you are, share your journey.