Their family values, customs, family dynamics and mores. Are those parents emotionally available. As an adult, that can take a toll on your relationships. Being an only child often forces you to rely more on your imagination, which matures into creativity with age. I'm not saying they're better or worse, just vastly different.
When I wanted something, I needed to convince my parents I really needed it. I'm the y0ungest of both sets. As of a few years ago, I've stopped caring for my mother's approval of things, and I've never cared to gain my dad's. I'm secure in that I know what I'm doing, but I'm also aware that I might be wrong. As parents have more children they relax more and become less demanding.
My little brother was always sick of getting hand-me-downs. Children with middle child syndrome find it very difficult to confide in anyone about their feelings, and this could lead to them becoming negative with no sense of direction and no ambition. While I am a textbook study of the middle child, I say, always look at both sides of the coin. Parenting expert Amy McCready says that middle siblings have to learn how to successfully navigate the moods of their older and younger siblings. Remember how comedian George Burns was famously dedicated to his wife, Gracie, for decades after her death? Two firstborn will fight over leadership, since they both grew up feeling like they were in control of their younger siblings.
A lack of self-esteem creates a lack of confidence, and sometimes makes the child feel as though every problem that happens in the family is their fault. We had to fight the good fight when we were younger. I got used to being alone and not being insulted by it. This can cause problems because they may avoid addressing problems in marriage or at work. We might act out if we're not getting enough attention.
Oldest and youngest siblings have well-defined characteristics, but the middle child is a real wild card. Even before I developed the disorder, I was very shy and kept to myself a lot when at school or social gatherings. Firstborns are generally more driven than younger siblings, whilst the middle child is far more likely to just coast along as they do not feel able to compete with their elder sibling and get tired of living in their shadow. I don't like arguments, however, as I have a very short fuse most of the time and it scares even me. These jokes may not always be appropriate, and they won't always come at appropriate times, but they will be hysterically funny. This is why you will often find only children harder to get close to, to convince to open up.
She's incredibly independent and I don't think she's ever accepted financial help or asked for emotional support. We're constantly overlooked, so we're really good at adapting. How well do you cope with chaos and neglect, how do you cope with outside relationships and the ups and downs of life? We need to stop trying to figure people out this way, what your are saying might be spot on to some people, most likely the person you wrote about or other people with a similar family dynamics, but you cant write a book about this in the general sense, and expect to be true about the majority of middle born kids. We got the short end of the stick, so we are goddamn resilient. The oldest was indifferent to me. You can sit around and whine about it or you can deal with it and learn to still succeed. Even so, if both of you tend to be the secretive type, you could have difficulty communicating.
Im also a more logical thinker and like the leaders mentioned I stand for justice like no other. Take that into consideration and make compromises to keep the relationship solid. They can see all sides of a question and are empathetic and judge reactions well. She might actually be quite okay! Perhaps not the superstar of the family growing up, they have nonetheless developed qualities and learned strategies to shine in adulthood. I'm a very passive person and it may be just my perspective but I think arguments stemmed from her bitterness. They have never been able to forge ahead and do something for the first time to impress their parents, because the eldest sibling has probably done it already.
Our childhoods influence our adult selves immensely. Using birth order to find a compatible match can be a complicated matter, especially for middle children, for those who experienced the early loss of a parent or sibling, or for those who had significantly greater than average parental conflict. Look, we just want to be included in stuff. Because middles are sandwiched between siblings and so have always had to try to please everyone as the diplomat of the family, they dislike confrontation and may shy away from frank discussions about serious problems in a relationship — a lack of honesty that can store up problems for the future. My little brother was always sick of getting hand-me-downs. Middle children of the world, unite! I'd rather do things on my own than with others, because of my stubbornness to do certain things how I want them to be done.